Sacred Love - Making Your Relationship Your Number One Priority is the Key to Long Term Happiness

Make your work a hobby. Make your sport refreshment. Make your diet considered and let your mood be chosen. Let your priorities be love.

It is such a great opportunity to consider "what is important". If you want a relationship that is filled with love, then you'll need to make love your highest priority. This seems easy and obvious when we are 19 years old, but when we turn 20, we seem to forget it.

It is so easy for Mum and Dad, friends, other people, university, to draw on our resources and make our love for our lover the thing we do when we are finished with everything else. Married people whose relationships are devoid of love, often search for friendships outside their marriage that "give them life", and in so doing, often draw other couples apart. Parents who never grow up, keep sucking the life force out of their grown children in order to "get meaning" out of life. And children from a past marriage or the current relationship, who were once disciplined to respect their role in a home, are now the dominant force in a relationship. Things have changed and love is suffering.

If you want a relationship to last, you had better make your relationship the most important thing in your life. Beyond the emotional drama of infatuation, making your relationship the most important thing in your life is a spiritual commitment to love. That love, rather than through the heart of a guru, religion or idol, becomes your lover. Your lover becomes your guru.

If you hold in your mind a fantasy of meeting a partner who will keep the peace, keep your private life calm, and not disturb the life you have created as a single person, then you are really a single person looking for a pleasure puppy. Better you buy a cat or a dog, especially one that doesn't scratch or bite. But if you are looking for love and sacred relationship, then you better be ready to work for it. The absolute purpose of a sacred relationship is to give you pleasure and pain. Your mission must become to welcome them both with open arms.

There are a lot of people who read the books, do the yoga classes, attend the meditation and become obsessed with peace. Then they are locked out of sacred love, because sacred love is like nature. Nature is always adjusting herself, supporting the forest, destroying the forest. The cycle is always going on like this, over and over and over. So if you meet someone who only wants peace, you can love them, but know they can never find sacred love. They are stuck in the first level.

In my kayak, I go alone into the ocean, because I know how to Eskimo roll. But in Nepal when I am trekking I always take a porter/guide because I don't know how to climb up out of a snowstorm alone. In business, I have an MBA and lots of experience, so I am not afraid to build business, because I know how to "get through challenges". In love, I know how to deal with emotions and challenges, so I am not afraid to love.

But if seeking a peaceful life (the sign of a rigid ego that has stopped growing) has become your priority, then you have become your own guru, and this is a disaster. Love needs a mirror in which you do not see what you want to see, but more importantly, you see reality. Reality gets you past your layers of ego. Relationship is the only guru that is honest. To say you are your own guru is like masturbation becoming sex. Instead of improving your intimacy with your lover, it kills it.

Chris Walker is a world leading change agent, an environmentalist and author of more than 20 books. Born and bred in Australia, he consults to people and organisations throughout the world on improved relationships, health and lifestyle through the application of the Universal laws of Nature. The result he offers is that we stay balanced, share loving relationships, work with passion, enjoy success, and live our personal truth. To learn more about Chris?s work and journeys to Nepal, visit http://www.chriswalker.com.au

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