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2012年4月23日 星期一

Spiritual Empowerment in Seven Days


The different abilities of humans can be classified in three categories - Physical, Intellectual and Spiritual. The strength of these abilities varies from human to human. Just as the intellectual quotient increases with an increase of intellectual abilities the emotional quotient of a human increases as spiritual abilities increase. The modern human knows much more about enhancing his or her physical and intellectual abilities as compared to the enhancements on the spiritual side. Traditionally, religions provided the discipline and practice required to enhance spiritual abilities. However, in the scientific age, the grip of religion has weakened because some believe that religions contain dogma that is not rational or appealing.

This article lists seven steps that can put a person firmly on the road to spiritual empowerment. Since physical and intellectual capabilities are subservient to spiritual abilities, following these seven steps will results in improvements in all three areas. In order to follow the steps given here one need not belong to any specific religion but a belief in God or the Universal intelligence is necessary. On the other hand, these steps can be followed even if a person belongs strictly to any of the religions prevalent on our planet. It is secular knowledge recommended by all the great religions as well as new age philosophies. There is nothing new in whatever is written in this article but the organization of the matter is new as relevant for our times.

One may become spiritually empowered in one week or a million years. The road to becoming god-like can be a long or short one depending on where one stands presently. However, the essential thing is that one takes to that road because the benefits in terms of happiness, security, freedom and success in one's endeavors begin as soon as a person begins the journey. For convenience, the various things required for spiritual empowerment have been divided in seven steps, so that one may focus on the first on a Monday, the second on Tuesday and so on returning to the same cycle in the following week. One does not become perfect in one day but any improvement made in any of the designated areas will have one marching swiftly towards spiritual empowerment. If you wish you could maintain a diary in which you record a specific improvement that has been made on each day of the week.

LACK OF GREED AND CONTENTMENT: Monday

One must remain content with whatever one can acquire through reasonable effort and honest work. To crave for anything that one cannot attain easily or is not one's fair share in life is a short cut to unhappiness. Even if our needs and desire seem to be necessary, we have to be patient for the Universal intelligence to grant it at the right time. All we can do is make reasonable efforts towards fulfilling that need. It is not improper to work honestly towards a worthy goal but being impatient in achieving results has to be avoided. The Universal Intelligence will grant those at the right time. So get on with whatever needs to be done cheerfully.

WORK: Tuesday

It is necessary to do work for one's livelihood and for maintaining one's home and social obligations cheerfully, sincerely and honestly. If one is unemployed, then one should explore avenues for new employment, volunteer work and self-employment. It is also necessary to reserve some of one's effort for acts of service. Retired persons or those who do not need to work for a livelihood may involve themselves in charitable work only. Spiritual empowerment requires avoiding laziness and idle pursuits. However, a reasonable amount of entertainment that is wholesome and does not strain one's health should not be regarded as an idle pursuit but as something that helps maintain a cheerful personality.

TRUTH: Wednesday

This refers to truthfulness in speech. If we feel compelled to lie in a situation then we are on the wrong track and the situation needs a change. Speech must be genial too. Silence has to be preferred to voicing the truth when we know it will cause hurt to another person. By extension truthfulness also implies straightforwardness and honesty in all of one's dealings and work.

LOVE: Thursday

To love it is necessary that the opposite is avoided, that is violence, not just in deed but also in speech and thought. To be a loving person one must love all of creation and show kindness to all creatures. It also means avoiding hatred, harsh behavior, jealousy, malicious intent and gossip and to be a forgiving person. The avoidance of anger even on provocation is necessary for a truly loving person. It also means helping others and doing acts of charity whenever the appropriate opportunity arises without expecting anything in return.

AVOIDING LUST: Friday

Lust implies sexual indulgence, thoughts and behavior. Since total celibacy is not feasible for most humans, sexual interests must be confined to interactions that are a part of romantic love and involve mutual love and interests. Sexual indulgence for purely physical pleasure needs to be avoided.

CLEANLINESS AND DISCIPLINE: Saturday

It is necessary to keep one's body, clothes and surroundings clean and orderly. It also means to ensure that the food, water and air we consume are pure. We need to ensure discipline in diet, exercise, sleep, work and entertainment so that our health remains in the best possible state.

WORSHIP AND LOVE OF GOD: Sunday

The first step is to believe in the Lord of this universe with all our heart and to trust in His love for us. We may worship Him in whatever way we have learnt and consider best. It can include any or all of meditation, prayer, chanting, studies of sacred texts etc. It means being fearless and not worrying about future too much, but rather to trust in the Lord to take care of all our necessary needs. It also implies not being proud or egoistic. One must realize how small one is in this vast universe and avoid a sense of self-importance. Whatever we achieve is a gift from the Universe and hardly because of any great achievement on our part. Humility is a necessary virtue for worship. To love God also means to have a sense of shame and guilt whenever we are tempted to do a wrong act. It is impossible for a human to be perfect. All that is required is an effort to improve and ensure that we do not justify or support wrong acts i.e. such as those listed in the seven steps above.

You need not wait for a Monday to begin. The cycle can be started on any day of the week. Begin today. Once you begin the journey, it will be a joyous one.




Dr. Ashok Malhotra is an international educator. For more articles by him on spirituality follow http://someitemshave.blogspot.com or his book - Mystic and the Blossoms - at http://stores.lulu.com/am





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2012年3月4日 星期日

Parsley: One of the World's Seven Most Potent Disease-Fighting Spices with 33 Health Benefits


Parsley (Petroselinum crispum), the world's most popular culinary herb is also known as "rock celery" and belongs to the Umbelliferae family of plants. Parsley is one of the world's seven most potent disease-fighting spices which also include Ginger, Oregano, Cinnamon, Turmeric, Sage, and Red chili peppers. Parsley grows in most climates and is readily available throughout the year. It is a biennial plant which means that it produces seeds during its second year of production and will reseed itself if you let it.

While parsley is a wonderfully nutritious and healing food, it is often under-appreciated. Most people do not realize that this vegetable has more uses than just being a decorative garnish that accompanies restaurant meals.

Parsley is native to the Mediterranean region of Southern Europe and has been cultivated for more than 2,000 years. It was originally used as a medicinal plant (see below) prior to being consumed as a food. Ancient Greeks held parsley to be sacred, using it to not only adorn victors of athletic contests, but also for decorating the tombs of the deceased. While it is uncertain when and where parsley began to be consumed as a seasoning, historians think it may be sometime during the Middle Ages in Europe. Some historians credit Charlemagne with its popularization as he had it grown on his estates.

Parsley's Many Therapeutic Health Benefits Include Its Use For:

o Anemia: Builds up the blood because it is high in iron. The high vitamin C content assists the absorption of iron.

o Antioxidant: Increases the anti-oxidant capacity of the blood.

o Bactericidal (kills bacteria)

o Bad breath

o Baldness: Believe it or not, men even scrubbed parsley onto their scalps to cure baldness--which doesn't work.

o Blood purifier

o Blood vessel rejuvenation: Maintains elasticity of blood vessels, and helps to repair bruises.

o Diarrhea is greatly helped by drinking parsley tea.

o Digestion: Parsley is an excellent digestion restorative remedy. It improves the digestion of proteins and fats therefore promoting intestinal absorption, liver assimilation and storage. Because of its high enzyme content, parsley benefits digestive activity and elimination.

o Dissolves cholesterol within the veins.

o Diureticparsley tea helps resolve swollen ankles.

o Ear health: Treats deafness and ear infections.

o Edema: Acts as a diuretic and blood vessel strengthener.

o Fatigue: Parsley is high in iron so helps repair and provides components for better blood cells.

o Gallstones: Helps dissolve them.

o Glandular support of the liver, spleen, kidneys and adrenal glands.

o Gout

o Hormonal support: In women, parsley improves estrogen and nourishes and restores the blood of the uterus. Conditions like delayed menstruation, PMS, and the menopause (dry skin, irritability, depression and hair loss) can often improve.

o Hormone balancing is achieved through the volatile fatty acids contained in parsley.

o Immune booster: The high vitamin C, beta carotene, B12, chlorophyll and essential fatty acid content render parsley an extraordinary immunity enhancing food. Parsley is an immune-enhancing multi-vitamin and mineral complex in green plant form and one of the most important herbs for providing vitamins to the body.

o Inhibits tumor formation, particularly in the lungs.

o Insect bites: Rub on to relieve the swelling and itch.

o Jaundice

o Kidneys: Parsley is effective for nearly all kidney and urinary complaints except severe kidney inflammation. It improves kidney activity and can help eliminate wastes from the blood and tissues of the kidneys. It prevents salt from being reabsorbed into the body tissues; thus parsley literally forces debris out of the kidneys, liver and bladder. It helps improve edema and general water retention, fatigue and scanty or painful urination.

o Liver congestion: It enriches the liver and nourishes the blood. Parsley helps reduce liver congestion, clearing toxins and aiding rejuvenation.

o Menstrual irregularity: Parsley helps to make the cycles regular by the presence of apiol which is a constituent of the female sex hormone estrogen.

o Menstrual pain

o Night blindness: Bad eyesight is a sign of Vitamin A deficiency.

o Rheumatism

o Spleen strengthening: The parsley root in particular strengthens the spleen, and can, therefore, treat malabsorption.

o Stamina loss and low resistance to infection, point to a sluggish liver. This can manifest itself in blood deficiencies, fatigue, a pale complexion and poor nails, dizzy spells, anemia and mineral depletion.

o Stomach problems

o Strengthens loose teeth: In the Middle Ages parsley was used for many conditions including 'fastening teeth' (Scurvy, which is caused by a Vitamin C deficiency, makes the gums spongy and the teeth loose.)

o Uterine tonic

o Weight loss benefits from being a diuretic

Nutritional Benefits of Parsley:Parsley is a nutrient powerhouse containing high levels of beta carotene, vitamin B12, folate, chlorophyll, calcium, more vitamin C than citrus fruits, and just about all other known nutrients. Parsley is a moistening, nourishing, restoring, 'warming' food, pungent with a slightly bitter, salty flavor. It enhances and stimulates the energy of organs, improving their ability to assimilate and utilize nutrients.

Beta carotene is used for protein assimilation. This nutrient benefits the liver and protects the lungs and colon. Beta-carotene is converted by the body to vitamin A, a nutrient so important to a strong immune system that its nickname is the "anti-infective vitamin."

Chlorophyll: Parsley is abundant in chlorophyll, thus purifying and inhibiting the spread of bacteria, fungi and other organisms. Chlorophyll from parsley is slightly anti-bacterial and anti-fungal which acts to enhance immune response and to relieve mucus congestion, sinusitis and other 'damp' conditions. Chlorophyll, high in oxygen, also suppresses viruses and helps the lungs to discharge residues from environmental pollution.

Essential Fatty Acids: Parsley is a source of alpha-linolenic acid, an important essential fatty acid that is too frequently deficient in today's diets.

Fluorine is an important nutritional component abundantly found in parsley. Fluorine has an entirely different molecular structure from chemically-produced fluoride. Tooth decay results from a shortage of fluorine, not fluoride. It is the combination of calcium and fluorine which creates a very hard protective surface on teeth and bones. Fluorine also protects the body from infectious invasion, germs and viruses.

Folic Acid, one of the most important B vitamins, but one of its most critical roles in relation to cardiovascular health is to convert homocysteine into benign molecules. Homocysteine is a potentially dangerous molecule that, at high levels, can directly damage blood vessels and increase the risk of heart attacks and stroke in people with atherosclerosis or diabetic heart disease. Folic acid is also a critical nutrient for proper cell division and is therefore vitally important for cancer-prevention in two areas of the body that contain rapidly dividing cells--the colon, and in women, the cervix.

Iron: The iron content of parsley is exceptional with 5.5mg per100g (4oz). A half-cup of fresh parsley or one tablespoon dried has about 10 percent of your iron daily requirements. Plus, parsley has the vitamin C your body needs to absorb that iron.

Protein: Parsley is made up of 20% protein. (About the same as mushrooms.)

Vitamin B12: Parsley contains traces of B12 producing compounds. Such compounds are needed for the formation of red blood cells and normal cell growth, important for fertility, pregnancy, immunity and the prevention of degenerative illness. The action of vitamin B12, however, is inhibited by birth control pills, antibiotics, intoxicants, stress, sluggish liver, and excess bacteria or parasites in the colon or digestive tracts. Parsley helps to counteract these inhibitors.

Vitamin K: Getting at least 100 micrograms of Vitamin K a day can drastically cut your risk of hip fracture. Vitamin K is necessary for bones to get the minerals they need to form properly. Parsley is loaded with vitamin K (180 mcg per 1/2 cup). Cooking parsley nearly doubles its Vitamin K.

Vitamin C: Parsley contains more vitamin C than any other standard culinary vegetable, with 166mg per 100g (4oz). This is three times as much as oranges. Flavonoids, which make up the Vitamin C molecule, maintain blood cell membranes, and act as an antioxidant helper.

Volatile oil components - including myristicin, limonene, eugenol, and alpha-thujene. Parsley's volatile oils, particularly myristicin, have been shown to inhibit tumor formation in animal studies, and particularly, tumor formation in the lungs. It acts as an antioxidant that can help neutralize particular types of carcinogens (like the benzopyrenes that are part of cigarette smoke, charcoal grill smoke, and the smoke produced by trash incinerators).

Parsley also contains calcium (245mg per 100g), phosphorus, potassium (1000mg per 4 oz), manganese (2.7mg per 100g), inositol, and sulphur.

Many of my client's test they would benefit greatly from eating parsley for all kinds of health problems.

How to Use Parsley:

Top off your sandwiches with it, include it in your salad greens, put it in Tabbouli or better yet, toss it into simmering soups, stews and sauces. We eat it raw in salads and those days when I can't eat it raw, I often add a couple of parsley capsules to my nutritional supplements.

Parsley juice, as an herbal drink, is quite powerful and is usually taken in quantities of about 2 fl oz (50ml) three times a day and is best mixed with other juices. I noticed that it's most effective to juice parsley in between other vegetables as the juice is heavy and thick and doesn't move through some juicers very readily.

Types of Parsley:The two most popular types of parsley are curly parsley and Italian flat leaf parsley. They are both related to celery. The Italian variety has a more fragrant and less bitter taste than the curly variety. There is also another type of parsley known as turnip-rooted parsley (or Hamburg) that is cultivated for its roots, which resemble salsify and burdock. Chinese parsley, is actually cilantro.

How to Pick and Care for Parsley:Whenever possible, choose fresh, dark green, organically grown parsley that looks fresh and crisp over the dried form of the herb since it is superior in flavor. Avoid bunches that have wilted or yellowed leaves indicating over-mature or damaged produce.

Parsley can be stored loosely wrapped in a damp cloth or plastic bag and refrigerated for up to a week. Wash just before using. If the parsley wilts, either sprinkle it lightly with some water or wash it without completely drying it before putting it back in the refrigerator.

The best way to clean it is just like you would spinach. Place it in a bowl of cold water and plunge it up and down like you would a toilet plunger. This will allow any sand or dirt to dislodge. Remove the leaves from the water, empty the bowl, refill it with clean water and repeat this process until no dirt remains in the water.

If you have excess flat-leaved parsley, you can easily dry it by laying it out in a single layer on a clean kitchen cloth. I pre-chop mine (both varieties) and place it on a cookie sheet on top of the refrigerator where it is warm. Stir it occasionally to allow consistent drying. Once dried, it should be kept in a tightly sealed container in a cool, dark and dry place.

Some feel the curly leaved variety is best preserved by freezing, as opposed to drying. Although it will retain most of its flavor, it has a tendency to lose its crispness, so it is best used in recipes without first thawing.

Bon Appetit!




Dr. Denice Moffat is a practicing naturopath, medical intuitive, and veterinarian working on the family unit (which includes humans and animals) through her telephone consultation practice established in 1995. She has a content-rich website at http://www.NaturalHealthTechniques.com. Sign up for her free internationally distributed newsletter to receive a bonus report containing over 150 tips to improve your health starting today or follow her on Facebook for all the latest health updates and discussions at http://www.facebook.com/NaturalHealthTechniques. Permission to condense the article is granted if you also print the resource box and state that it was condensed from the original version.





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2012年1月7日 星期六

Is It Time to Move From Being Single Back to Relationship Again? Seven Suggestions That Help It Last


There are seven steps, I'll list them in order of sequence:

Entering the Stream
Mindfulness
Efforts
Success
Powers
Awakening
Humility

1. Entering the Stream

- Beyond Anger

- Beyond Greed

- Beyond Hatred

In order to enter the stream of healthy relationships you need to make sure you are not carrying baggage from the past.

Most single people, when asked about the past, reveal that "I'm over it, I let go" but that's like cleaning dog business off your shoes, the stuff goes but the scent remains.

To really clear the past a single person needs to be ready, willing and able to re-enter a relationship with any one and all of their past partners. But choose not to.

This is the acid test. Self-righteousness kills the future and single people who carry blame and victimhood into their next relationships sabotage them before they start or push people away before they even get close.

So the first key in entering the real stream of a healthy new relationship is to heal the old one. Now, please don't make the mistake of thinking that healing old relationships involves apologies, public displays of affection or even bonking with ex partners. No... That's not the healing. The healing is a spiritual one, where there is absolute gratitude, no victim, an appreciation and thankfulness toward that person. You'd even recommend them to your best friend.

Some single people blame, hate and remain angry at their ex partner for years and years. Even if that single person finds a relationship, that relationship will be a fraction of what they dreamed of. When we hate, blame and be angry with just one person in the past, we bring that horrible mindset to our new love, albeit subconsciously, and set up a false dynamic from the start.

So, enter the stream by taking off the concrete backpack and lead boots. It makes it so much easier to swim.

Cleanse yourself of the past, bathe yourself in love, learn to discard those old crusty feelings and emotions that have moved you through a hurt, but which, if not released will bind you to it.

This is the first key, to be ready, and really, genuinely single. No longer wishing or hoping for the past to be different or the future to have any reflection from the past. Your new partner might be sympathetic to your issues from the past at first, but not for long.

Clear heart, clear mind, clear emotions. An emotional and spiritual cleansing is a really big step in creating a new long term relationship.

Wash off the blame, work through the shame, get back on the train.

2. Mindfulness

- Mindful of Body

- Mindful of Feelings

- Mindful of Mind

- Mindful of objects

Single people are notoriously self aware. They've become aware of their thoughts, ideas, beliefs, feelings and lifestyle. They know what they want, want what they know to be good and really feel self-actualised in their capacity to be content sitting in their own wet nappy.

But this sort of self-awareness is often verging on self-obsession. And there are a few tricks and traps to be aware of.

First, separate body awareness from mind awareness, then mind awareness from spiritual awareness. Be careful that you keep them separate and don't confuse them. Why?

Because body awareness is vital to love and intimacy
Because mind awareness is vital to romance and love
Because spiritual awareness is vital to long term choices in short term circumstances.

This balance between mind, body and spirit awareness is expressed in your environmental awareness. Be aware of the clothes you wear, the things you surround yourself with and the people who you welcome as friends.

It is all too easy to drag those things from the past into the future and think they'll bring you the luck and fortune you deserve, but sometimes those people, things and places carry memories that are not yours, not clear, and impregnated with history that will make your new life and love impossible. You don't need to add challenges to new relationships, there will be enough just dealing with the future and present.

So, your mindfulness can include your thoughts, your feelings, your body health, and appearance. It also includes the space and place you create, with new sheets on the bed, new underclothes and even some new books to surround your new love.

3. Effort

- Doing the right thing

- Fixing and preventing doing the wrong thing

- Be aware of causing the right thing

- Sustaining and holding the right space

The effort required to move from single to couple is a complete change in strategy.

As a single person your strategy is built on your needs, your wants, your life, your future, your happiness, your comfort, your food, your work, your friends and your inspiration.

As a double person your strategy includes all those things from being single, plus those exact same strategies for your new partner.

There is no need to compromise, and it is certainly not wise to. Instead, find as many things to serve your common interests as possible. For example you might go to the gym early in order to accompany your partner to a function... Both are happy.

Doing the right thing is an intention.

But don't expect to be placed on some sort of pedestal for having this intention. Because there's two sides to everything, you won't always be rewarded for your efforts in the form of acknowledgment or appreciation.

Doing the right thing is always vulnerable to interpretation and therefore prone to error. So, intend to do the right thing, help your partner at all times but don't always expect their recognition. Instead give it to yourself. Recognise your intent and be kind to yourself.

The time to practice this is when you are single. Create a positive intention and deal with people's negative opinions by relaxing into your intentions.

Holding a good space means that you process your stuff quickly and cleanly. When you are single you might be willing to feel angry or resentful about somebody for a day or a week but when you get ready to be in a relationship, you have to recognise that holding such ugly mindsets for a longer time creates spaces that partners don't want to be around.

A thankful, appreciative, inspired place is attractive for a partner. So, if you are going to create a healthy relationship from being single space, you need to intensify your commitment to processing your baggage (negative or unhealthy emotion).

Many single people think that how they look or what they say is what causes attraction. But that attraction is only at the body level. Mind and spirit attraction are primarily internal attractions and come from feelings that no words can express. So, your Innerwealth, your inner dialogue is what causes attraction that is sustainable.

This is why you need to enter the stream cleaned up. Because if you are still having moments, seconds or days or resentments, anger or bitterness toward your ex, it ooozes out of your being and creates an unattractive presence for mind and spirit.

Many single people tell me that mind and spirit don't really matter in attraction as long as they feel physically connected and attracted to their partner. That's a choice but I don't see those people in long term trusting relationships.

So, as a single person getting ready to re-engage in a relationship, make sure you've learned how to focus life on love and goodness, being supportive, complimenting, encouraging, and appreciative toward others.

4. Success

- Diligence

- Energy

- Awareness (focus)

- Penetration

In this fourth step you have to step back a moment and ask, why do long term relationships succeed, and why do short term relationships fail?

In nature the answer is simple. Some have short term goals and some have long term.

Short term relationships are not wrong. They are simply not meant to do more than they do in the time. However, if a person is hoping for long term and acting for short term then there's going to be a heart break.

Short term action focuses on the physical. Long term action focuses on the spirit.

The human spirit is keen on one key area of life, and that is the future.

Many people obsess with being at peace. And peace is in the now. So, they become self-obsessed because in the now, there is only the physical. Mental is dead in the now, and that's why it is so peaceful. Everything is OK.

But the spirit is inspired by the future. A sense of purpose and outcome, a destiny and this is what binds two lovers for the long term. A sense of common destiny.

To move from single to double is easy when you know your VIP... Vision, Inspiration and Purpose in life. Vision sets up the future in everyday language, Inspiration is the expansion of the Now into the future so that there's a real sense of enthusiasm toward it, and Purpose is the underlying intent for the future.

100% of sustainable attraction is explained in those three letters, VIP. So, the most critical element of VIP is the ability to articulate them. This is the outcome of a Vision Quest and you are wise to do this before you meet someone new in relationship. Otherwise you will be confused.

This is the turning point. Because a relationship based on VIP will last and last, but a relationship based on short term goals will fill those goals (like car, children, house and dog) and then lose attraction. (this is when affairs happen)

Your VIP is in your heart. Do a vision quest to bring it out to life as part of your preparation for relationship.

5. Powers:

- The strength of Confidence

- The strength of Energy

- The strength of emotional and mental Stability

- The strength of emotional and mental Concentration

- The strength of true Understanding

We mentioned in the fourth step, Success, that VIP is a turning point between short term and long term relationship.

There is, however, a critical awareness that follows.

Only 33.333% of your VIP will be integrated in your relationship. 66.666% of your VIP will be up to you... And therefore, your independent commitment to your longer term vision, inspiration and purpose will remain separate from your relationship.

A single person is not challenged on their VIP. They are their own challenger. But in a relationship, partners question, challenge and provoke VIP.

To make it clearer: a single person might say, "I want peace in my heart" and because they are alone a lot of the time, or at least able to choose their challengers, they stay at peace a lot of the time. But peace is a no grow zone and relationships are meant to grow us.

So, underpinning a healthy relationship, is challenge.

Challenge thinking, beliefs, self ideals, expectations, desires, values, ethics, and more.

Many people don't want to be challenged. So, they remain single.

Single people often choose their beliefs, religion, ideals, ideas, philosophies, expectations and don't want those questioned.

Automatically, that person must remain single forever. Because any relationship will challenge what they don't want challenged.

Most long term single people are highly attached to their beliefs about the past, present and future, and although they might welcome some debate around those topics, they don't like to be questioned too much.

A relationship that does not question beliefs and ideas, is no relationship, it's a friendship and it won't satisfy.

To enter into healthy challenge one must have a strong and clear confidence from which they receive and send challenge. If that confidence is fragile it will become volatile and aggressive.

A strong sense of self, separated from beliefs and ideals is therefore a vital key to a healthy relationship. And this is where single people most often get stuck.

Developing self confidence is a journey that can often get trapped in ego pockets. We love to reinforce our ego but this is learning and makes us even more insecure.

Real confidence building and power comes from unlearning. Unlearning means that the more we know, the more we know we don't know.... It is a simple spiritual awareness that, the bigger we think, the less ego and therefore the less we see to judge in others.

Some single people gain self confidence by being right, or happy, or comfortable in their attachments to what they believe. But that confidence is an isolating confidence and no partner will celebrate love with a hard headed, closed minded, fixed person. There is no communication on a mind or spirit level possible with them.

So, for open hearted loving relationship, focus on unlearning in order to develop the following traits in your self.

- The strength of Confidence

- The strength of Energy

- The strength of emotional and mental Stability

- The strength of emotional and mental Concentration

- The strength of true Understanding

6. Awakening

- Full attention

- The Universal Laws - Cause and Effect

- Energy

- Joy

- Ease

- Concentration

- Letting go

There are seven layers to love. Starting with the physical and moving all the way up to the spiritual, or unconditional love.

Many of us get stuck in the lower realms and forget to explore the higher ones.

If that happens, love making can become repetitive and boring, and many married couples report a diminishing frequency of love making, or the need for mechanical toys and other things to cause arousal.

There is a way to explore higher levels of love and intimacy that also helps develop our own soul.

That development is in the awakening of deeper connections above and below.

Such connections have the capacity to change the way we see. A person who sees meetings, and sport and food and schedules lives the same day as an awakened person but they see the day totally different.

For the awakened person every day is filled with miracles. That's a key... To see more beauty in the day. This in turn brings joy and joy is an energy that could, if contained bring long, long life.

When people search for answers about why some people live long and healthy, while others are on life support drugs from the age of 20, the answer is in this level of awakening, rarely in diet or secret herbs.

Single people might jump to this sixth stage in the seven steps and ignore the first five in the simple desire to transcend all the muck of everyday relationship and hope that there's a way to live in divine love without the nuts and bolts but this is more self-obsessive single person idealism.

The key to awakening is that it will never happen for our own pleasure or comfort. It will only happen to enhance the service and love we give to others.

A leader will attract awakening in order to lead better. A parent will attract awakening in order to parent better. A doctor will attract awakening in order to serve better.

Awakening is not possible for the sake of our own soul. It comes with training and underlying that training is a sense of purpose and duty to others. To love more, give more, share more, offer more.

So, a single person can easily become awakened without relationships however, their relationship must be existing with their service or duty to a mission greater than themselves.

This is often missing in the teaching of awakening in western classes.

7. Humility

- Loving Kindness - Give joy and happiness to others.

- Joyfulness - Happiness for ourselves and others that causes no harm.

- Equanimity - Give and act unconditionally

- Compassion - Remove suffering from others

Automatically, through step 6, step 7 is realised.

To arrive at awakening and sustain it, one must be humbled to some greater purpose.

Pattanjali says it perfectly

"When you are inspired by some greater purpose, some extraordinary project,

all your thoughts break their bonds, your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great, and wonderful world.

Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be."

This is a beautiful achievement but more importantly it opens the door, when built on the previous six steps in love, to a relationship that is what every human on earth dreams to have.

Most relationships don't achieve this state. They achieve sexual and physical bliss, and moments of unconditional love, but this is punctuated with many disappointments.

The achievement of this human dream of divine and sacred love is not difficult. It does however, cost.

The cost of divine love is the discarding of much of what binds individuals into family, work and social unconsciousness.

To discard these things is not to isolate or separate from them, but moreover, to become un-reactive, not influenced or swayed by them. This is a very big ask for some single people whose identity is wrapped up in push pull relationships with siblings and family.

Ultimately humility is not vulnerability. Instead it is the capacity to see through what others often take seriously.

This last step, cannot be taken without the wisdom gained in the first six, and this is the journey from single to absolute, and unconditional, sacred love with a partner.

Wishing you happiness.

Chris




Innerwealth < http://www.innerwealth.com > is a real life, everyday, raw and nature based awareness that helps people live from the inside out. It opens hearts from past challenges, frees vision, inspiration and life purpose and gives rise to true human potential in all the seven areas of life. Innerwealth is also a process, a process that helps people deal with everyday challenges, tap their intuitive nature and live, in a sense, guided from within. A leaders edge, a lovers heart. There are twenty books in the Innerwealth Series, including Sacred Love and Innerwealth, plus "the Laws of Nature for Better Relationships" weekly blogs and podcasts. Chris Walker also runs consultations, interventions and seminars on Innerwealth at work and at home. < http://www.innerwealth.com >





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